Monday, January 19, 2009

Too good to be true

I am slowly defrosting from what was a freezing week in the Phila area. I focused on my classes and putting together an application for a summer teaching program. My boss wrote me a recommendation for the program and it was incredible. I never knew how much she appreciated what I do for the school. Friday night was relaxing... BodyPump and BodyCombat at the gym and then home to watch a movie. I saw The Story of Us-- a wonderful romantic comedy.

On Saturday, I did yoga and then was off for my LONG anticipated date with Consultant Boy. We got take out from his favorite Italian resturaunt and ate in with some good wine. I was cold and he offered me his sweatshirt... and said I looked like a "girl in her boyfriend's sweatshirt." Ah... that would have been the best moment to say, "Am I your girlfriend?" We watched Wanted (it was OK- good action flick) and I asked him if he was dating anyone else or looking to date anyone else. He said no, "It's only you LPP." So, I was REALLY happy. He confirmed it was just me.

I should have just let myself be blissed out. I went on Facebook and he put up a picture of himself as his profile picture with two girls. Earlier in our dating (in November) I checked on match.com to see if there was anyone on there in his area and his age. Sure enough, he was on there, but we had not clarified anything yet. I went on today and not only is he still there he JUST updated his profile and was active within 24 hours. This is so upsetting because he said that he was not looking to date anyone else... I am not sure if I should just enjoy our time together- we do have a really good time- and ignore this OR if I need to bring it up with him. I know I am spying and don't want him to think our relationship is about spying on each other, but I guess he and I have different definitions of what "not seeing other people" is.

5 comments:

Pink Pearls & Muddy Sneakers said...

Oh, LPP... I am happy you had a good time with him, and my fingers are crossed for you. He is being SO confusing! Maybe once you get more time together, you will be able to figure it out. These things seem to work themselves out :)

Kappa Prep said...

Oh gosh, I am so terrible in these types of situations. I guess I would wait and see how it goes this week and bring up the dating thing again next time you are together. If he gives the same answer perhaps inquire about if that counts for online dating too?

SPG said...

Congratulatons for your sweet recomendation letter from your boss!!

Piper Jacquelyn said...

Wow, that is extremely shady behavior! I hope he doesn't think he can "keep his options open" or something, ick! I'm so sorry, I hope it all gets straightened out or works out for the best (whatever is best for YOU, of course!). Take care & BE careful!

Preppy Pink Crocodile said...

I think I have a new outlook on this stuff since turning 30 last year. I am sort of the belief now that if it is not working out, it's not worth it. Not to be harsh but you know....why waste time. If you are OK with it not being exclusive, then go for it. But if you are looking for exclusive, I would find the courage to say something. Maybe not bring up the online dating thing- instead ask him if he intends to be exclusive or if he would consider dating others? Better to know than have the curiosity eat at you.